My dad used to say this to me.

My dad used to say this to me.

It's actually a Lou Holtz quote and my dad meant it the way Lou Holtz meant it. As a wake-up call. A push toward personal accountability. Stop looking for sympathy and start solving your own problems.

I understood that part.
But I was too young to understand the motivational side of it.
All I took away was Nobody cares. Figure it out. Alone.

And that totally lived in my head rent free as a limiting belief I didn't even recognize.
So I stopped asking for help. I stopped leaning on people. I convinced myself that needing support was the same as being weak or being a burden.

It took a long time to unlearn that.

Because the real takeaway was never go it alone.
It was stop venting to everyone and focus your energy on actually solving the problem. Build a tight, trusted circle. Lean on the right people. And then get to work.

That's the version I wish I'd heard.

So when artists come to me burned out, stuck, and convinced that asking for help is somehow failing, I think about that quote.

And then I give them mine.

Stop solving the wrong problem.
Because most of the time, the issue isn't that you need to work harder or go it alone.
It's that you've been pouring everything into the wrong thing and nobody ever helped you see it.

Did you grow up with advice that you carried the wrong way for too long? I'd love to know. Drop it in the comments. 👇

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